Can Perfection Be the Obstacle to Productivity?
Are you one of those women who have to do everything perfectly? Do you know that perfection is the biggest enemy of your own productivity?
You were always taught that being perfect was a good thing. Perfect grades at school. Perfect hair. Perfect makeup. Perfect bridal dress. Perfect wedding. Perfect everything.
Let me tell you something: perfection has no business in a modern woman’s life. Think about it: in a busy day, you have to do things at a supersonic pace. You have to make yourself look good in the morning. You have to get to work on time. You have to do your job well. You have to take care of your home and family. You have to remain positive, so you’ll make people happy. If you try to do all these things perfectly, you’ll turn yourself into a bubble that’s about to burst, and that won’t be pretty at all.
Are you interested to find out how perfection hurts your productivity? Read on; there’s a lot to say on that matter.
When You Strive for Perfection, You Don’t Do Much
So you want the perfect outfit and makeup in the morning? Then, you’ll have to get up really early to give yourself at least two hours for a shower, breakfast, and the process of getting ready before you head off to work. What does that mean? You don’t sleep much. That affects your productivity. If you go to bed too early just to sleep enough and still get ready to perfection, it means you’re missing out on that cozy evening with your loved ones.
You can do only one thing perfectly. All other tasks and joys will suffer because of it.
Why can’t you just go with a capsule wardrobe that doesn’t take much time to combine, but still looks incredibly good on you? Why can’t you apply minimal makeup to accentuate your natural beauty? You don’t have to be the epitome of perfection every single time.
Perfectionism Leads to a Burnout
Let’s say you’re a freelance writer. If everyone else takes two hours to write an article, you’ll take at least four. You’ll pay attention to every single word, phrase, sentence, and paragraph. You’ll do a great job, but you won’t be able to do much of it. When you have several articles to complete during the day, you’ll work for many hours and you’ll put your entire lifestyle out of balance.
Perfectionism makes you tired. You can keep going for some time, but your body and mind have limits. They come to a point when they tell you “That’s enough!” And you’ll hit the burnout. You’ll become irritable, extremely tired, and surprisingly unproductive.
How can you avoid the burnout? Well, stop being such a perfectionist and be more productive! It’s still important to do a good job. However, you must do more work in less time. That’s what productivity means, and that’s what perfectionism stops you from achieving.
Perfectionism Makes You Procrastinate
Let’s go with another example: a student, who always aims for perfect As. She has an important research paper to write, and she has to make it perfect. If research papers take two weeks to complete, she’ll need at least a month for it. She’ll work on every chapter for ages. Then, she’ll never stop editing. Yes; other projects and courses will suffer because of this research paper. The bigger problem is: she’ll spend so much time on each stage that she won’t finish it on time. This is not perfection. It’s procrastination.
What would the smart solution be? If this student organizes her time in a way that allows her to be good enough in all tasks, she’ll get to do everything on time. If she doesn’t manage to write that research paper, she’ll hire a writing service and focus on the other tasks. These decisions will make her more productive, and she’ll definitely overcome the procrastination trap.
You get the point, right? Sometimes good enough is good enough.
Negative Feedback Ruins a Perfectionist
You’ve worked long and really hard to achieve the state of perfection with something. You avoided other tasks because you were completely devoted to this one. Then, reality hits you: someone doesn’t like your work. In most situations, perfectionists have an extremely negative response to negative feedback.
Some of them will take the approach of a superior. They will say “This person knows nothing. I did this perfectly; they are just not good enough to understand how valuable my work is.” Most, on the other hand, will be completely devastated. When they realize that their perfect is not good enough, they will simply stop trying.
You’re productive only when you know how to handle feedback. There’s a way to benefit from negative comments. You’ll consider them. You’ll think how you can make your work better. You’ll act constructively. Perfectionism doesn’t allow you to do that.
Perfectionism Prevents You from Taking Risks
As a perfectionist, you tend to set really high standards. They are often unrealistic. You don’t just try to do everything well; you wish to be the best one in everything you do. When you realize you can’t be the best one at something, you tend not to try it at all.
You might not try yoga if you think you’re not flexible enough. You might never try surfing, since you’ll convince yourself it’s too late to start learning now; you could never become great at it. You might not try to express your feelings in written because you’re not a great writer.
Perfectionism prevents you from trying new things. And when you don’t try new things, you’re simply not living a productive life.
Perfectionism is practically paralyzing. It prevents you from enjoying life to the fullest. This strive for stellar achievements makes you a full-time worrier. It’s time to move past that point. It’s time to accept some level of uncertainty. It’s time to settle with good enough when that means achieving more in less time and with less effort. Are you ready for this change? It will really make a difference!
William Grigsby is an HR expert. His passion is to show that each person is unique and can independently achieve success by applying efforts every day. William was writing in this space for 2 successful years. Feel free to follow him on Twitter @willgrgsb
Wellness Holidays: The Most Amazing Health and Fitness Retreats
We need to detoxify our body and our spirit every once in a while. The work and daily responsibilities can be so exhausting a getaway is the only thing that can truly rejuvenate us and, thankfully, there are enough resorts around the world that are very successful in helping people get better. If you are looking for a break to de-stress, here are some of the most amazing health and fitness retreats for wellness holidays.
If you work in the office around the clock, the chances are you are spending a lot of time sitting and stress-eating. If you want to enjoy the mesmerizing natural sights and get fit, then Crete is a location for you. It’s the largest Greek island in the Mediterranean Sea and, at approximately 60 km wide and 260 km long, it offers some of the most jaw-dropping vistas you could imagine. Go for a physically involved health and fitness retreat at Milia, a renowned farm refurbished as an eco-village. Enjoy a ten-day retreat brimming with activities such as climbing, hiking and running while relishing in delightful local health-meals.
Rekawa Lagoon, Sri Lanka
Head down to the southern tip of Sri Lanka and enjoy the charms of Sen Wellness Sanctuary. Take a whole week to get off the radar and replenish your energy reserves at this wondrous beachside haven. The retreat is led by London-based acupuncturist and osteopath Sam Kankanamge. You will get a chance to lose weight and get the blood flowing through your muscles as your back finally feels relief from the chronic pain (probably caused by the stress). Enjoy the charms or Rekawa and Tangalle Beach and use your free time to jog along the sandy beach.
Byron Bay, New South Wales, Australia
Byron Bay is a secluded beachside town on a coastline between Brisbane and Sydney. It is mostly known worldwide for its surfing beaches and quaint surroundings where tourists come to relax. If you are looking for a place to detox, there is a luxurious Byron Bay Accommodation that offers amazing services, a killer day spa and incredible restaurants. There are some truly neat options for yoga classes and scheduled hikes through the nearby rainforest you should look into. The picturesque beaches and unique ecosystem make Byron Bay one of the most sought-after resorts for health and fitness on this side of the globe.
Paradis Plage, Morocco
Morocco is probably one of the most beautiful and exotic countries you will visit, and its Paradis Plage Surf Yoga & Spa Resort is a true Zen-hotspot on this side of the Atlantic Ocean. If you’ve ever wanted to wake up to the mesmerizing sound of ocean waves, head to this resort without a second thought. After a session of sunset yoga, head to the nearby Taghazout, a small port and a surfer haven where you can ride camels and ride a jet ski. While you are in the region, do not miss out on Imouzzer waterfall.
Oxfordshire, United Kingdom
Now here is a place for those of you who want a perfect escapade in a backdrop that has a rustic feel to it. Head for a Wellness Day in the Cotswolds, Oxfordshire, especially if you get a chance to take a vacation in the early summer – the green countryside is budding with some of the most beautiful flowers and lush plant life you will see. Yoga program is exquisite and well thought out. Meditative walks and energy infusing morning stretches will have you up and running with newfound vigor in no-time.
Whether it is a retreat in the middle of the forest or a beachside resort, finding the right place to find your inner balance is crucial to retain peak performance in your workplace and with your daily obligations. Sometimes, in order to find the right perspective, you need to step away from your everyday life and reassess your goals as you heal your body and your spirit. These fitness retreats are basically tailored for this, and you won’t regret taking a chance with any of them.
Olivia is psychologist and entrepreneur from Brisbane. Mother of two beautiful children and proud owner of two silly boxer dogs. She is passionate writer, a traveler and conscious consumer, seeking healthy and sustainable products to incorporate into the lives of her family. Her motto is “Be the change you want to see in the world”.
7 Problems We Can Tackle With Mindfulness Training
We live in an era when distractions are everywhere. We’re encouraged to pack our schedules, we’re told we should be distracted 24/7, and we’re made to believe that we’re not ambitious enough if our plates aren’t overloaded. Is it any coincidence that we’re also living in a time when stress-related diseases and conditions are running rampant from obesity to high blood pressure? Practicing mindfulness, whether it’s meditation, forest bathing, asana or another method, is critical for holistic well-being. Mindfulness can help with a variety of issues, but here are seven top reasons why being mindful should be a priority:
- Increase our intuition abilities. Intuition means being aware, observing, and active listening. It sounds simple, but it’s a skill that many of us don’t come close to realizing because of our lack of mindfulness. With better intuition, we can increase our compassion, empathy, and improve all of our relationships. A better romantic partnership, better relationship with co-workers, and more harmonious relationship with all of humanity is certainly a reason to be mindful
- Help with holistic addiction treatment. Addiction levels are at an all-time high from technology addiction to the opioid epidemic in the U.S. Mindfulness training has been a proven method for optimizing comprehensive addiction treatment, particularly for long-term success.
- Eating disorder treatment. Eating disorders include a wide range of issues such as Binge Eating Disorder (BED), Night Eating Syndrome (NES) along with the more well-known anorexia and bulimia. Orthorexia, or an obsession with healthy eating, is expected to become an official eating disorder soon. Eating disorders are the deadliest and most under-diagnosed of mental disorders, and mindfulness training can be a vital part of management.
- Struggles with priorities and shorter attention spans. In western countries, we’re expected to wear a number of hats on the job. Simultaneously, the human attention span is shorter than ever (shorter than a goldfish’s, in fact). Mindfulness can help us learn to triage, prioritize, and increase our attention spans. It goes hand in hand with decreasing our dependence on technology.
- Mood swing and Problems We Can Tackle With Mindfulness Training and road rage. The inability to control our emotions is exacerbated by the fact that few of us practice mindfulness on a regular basis. If you find yourself getting quickly angered when someone cut in front of you at the coffee shop or stewing for days over a slight the other person may not have realized at all, mindfulness can help you learn to let go.
- Re-condition negative self-talk. How we talk to ourselves plays a big role in our self-esteem, self-value, and overall health. Our culture reveres sarcasm and self-deprecation. However, if you don’t speak kindly to yourself and encourage yourself, who else will? Mindfulness can help us with “cognitive reconditioning” and undo years of negative self-talk.
- Anxiety. We’re being diagnosed with anxiety and related disorders at an astounding degree. Sometimes anxiety can be crippling and overlap with conditions such as agoraphobia while virtually halts a healthy life. Anxiety and mindfulness go hand in hand. If you struggle with anxiety, or simply feel anxious and worried more often than you’d like, then you might find that reconnecting with a mindful way of life can be soothing.
These are just a few of the problems many of us face on a regular basis, but mindfulness can be a balm for nearly every issue. There are many ways to incorporate mindfulness into your life—many are free, relatively easy, and accessible. You may need to try a few approaches to find the best fit for you. Don’t give up if the first few attempts don’t resonate with you.
Emily is an experienced content writer. She graduated from The University of Texas at Austin with a Bachelor of Communication in Journalism. She has written about an array of topics, from business, health, and technology to travel, culinary, education and even fashion & lifestyle. In her free time, Emily enjoys traveling, training for half marathons, and cooking for her family.
I’ll never forget the day I came out of the closet. Not that closet. The “I have a mental illness” closet. For months, I lived in fear; embarrassed what would happen to me if someone found out. It was as if I would be forced to walk around wearing a Scarlett Letter; a big, fat D. So, I hid it. I overcompensated. I laughed harder. Smiled more. Got involved in more activities. I did everything imaginable to hide the fact that I was living with depression. The happier I looked on the outside, the more troubled I felt on the inside.
Hiding my depression from the world was easy, but there were four people I simply could not fool. My husband and my three young sons. As soon as I would return home from work, I would retreat to my room; laying in the dark, under the covers until life required me to move. Still, there were many moments where not even the need to care for my kids could get me out of my self-made cave.
After struggling for so long and seeking several avenues of treatment, I came clean to my children, who were too young to understand what mental illness meant but could understand that mommy had a brain sickness that made her sad. My kids knew that if they wanted to spend time with mommy, they would have to join me in the cave. We spent many days just laying down together watching Nickelodeon and reading books. On days where even showering was an absolute challenge, at least I felt like I accomplished something with my children.
Despite my recovery not going as fast as I wanted or needed it to, I made a conscious effort to include my kids in the process. On days where I could not get out of bed, I would force myself out and take them to the zoo. I would focus all my attention on what they were doing and how they viewed life. I watched them do even the simplest things like order a hot chocolate at Starbucks or pick out books in the book store. When they would get excited over something new, I would get excited for them. In a way, I spent my time seeing life through the eyes of my children.
While I contemplated why I even existed on this planet, I watched them discover new things. Slowly, I noticed a shift in my own feelings. I was happy when they were happy. I also noticed that they went out of their way to not upset me. My 10-year-old would get in the car each day after school and ask me if I cried today. In the mornings, he would wish me a good day. My 4-year-old insisted on going to sleep with me by his side each night where he would tell me he loved me and that I was his bestie. And my 7-year-old would sing with me.
Being open with my children and having them accept me gave me the strength to share my story with others as I began speaking and presenting publicly on mental health disorders and suicide prevention. When I first publicly shared my story, I did have two or three people express their concern that I may be discriminated against; that parents may keep their children away from mine because I had a mental illness. Somehow hearing this, I didn’t care. I felt free. The people I needed to love me and accept me most, did and I knew that I could help others who faced similar situations.
I wasn’t faced with any sort of backlash but rather, absolute love and acceptance. Many people I have known for years personally reached out to me and shared their own journeys with mental illness and mothers at my children’s school reached out to me seeking help. And when our local high school lost a student by suicide, it was me they called to come speak to the students.
In the months since my darkest episodes, my focus has been spent on spending quality time with my children. We experience nature by hiking, rafting, kayaking and spending hours on the beach. We travel and visit museums, historical sites and professional sports games. My healing and renewal is mostly because I could find good and beauty in things I had always taken for granted. If it weren’t for my children, I don’t think my recovery would have been as successful. Yes, parenting is hard and it is exhausting but it is like no other. Our children, for the most part, are reflections of us. Not wanting to see them in pain, I chose to take the attention off myself and focus it on them. This approach may not work for all, but it did save me.
JEANINE HOFF is the founder and visionary leader of Where is the Sunshine?, a Northeast Florida-based 501(c)3 non-profit organization and social media resource dedicated to early intervention and peer support for mental health through advocacy, education and community collaboration.
For many of us, breakfast is the hardest meal of the day. For busy working moms, mornings usually mean getting up at the crack of dawn, getting the kids fed and ready for school, onto the bus and then quickly getting ourselves ready to head out the door for a long day of work.
For many moms, the thought of sitting down for a nutritious breakfast is just a distant memory of something you use to have time for.
The problem with this is that if we aren’t fueling our bodies right before the hectic day begins, we run the risk of dealing with blood sugar crashes, sugar cravings, and a lack of energy.
If you’re a busy working mom or just a busy working woman who has zero time in the morning, these recipes are for you.
These recipes are also grain free, Paleo, dairy-free, gluten-free and of course free from refined sugar.
These five energy boosting breakfast recipes take very minimal effort, and many of them can be prepped the night before. Don’t let skipping breakfast be the reason you don’t have energy to power through your morning and conquer your day.
Fuel your body right, and you may be surprised at how much better you feel. We can’t forget to take care of ourselves even in the midst of having to take care of a million other things.
Here’s to eating to feel our best and conquering the day ahead.
5 Energy Boosting Breakfast Recipes
Vanilla Bean Chia Pudding
- 1 can of full-fat coconut milk
- ¼ cup chia seeds
- 1 Tbsp. raw honey
- ½ tsp. pure vanilla extract
- 1/8 tsp. ground cinnamon
- Sliced berries
- Slivered almonds
- Raw cocoa nibs
- The night before you plan to enjoy, add the coconut milk and chia seeds to a mason style jar and whisk to combine.
- Add in the raw honey, vanilla, and cinnamon and whisk again.
- Cover and place in the fridge overnight.
- The following morning, gently stir and top with desired toppings.
Rise & Shine Breakfast Smoothie
- ½ cup of unsweetened almond milk
- ½ cup of mixed berries
- 1 Tbsp. ground flaxseeds
- 1 Tbsp. chia seeds
- ½ Tbsp. coconut oil
- 1 handful of spinach
- Add all ingredients to a high-speed blender and blend until smooth.
- Enjoy right away.
Make-Ahead Egg Muffins
- 8 eggs
- 1 red bell pepper, chopped
- 1 tomato, chopped
- 1 clove of garlic, chopped
- 1 small onion, chopped
- ¼ cup frozen chopped spinach
- ½ tsp. sea salt
- 1/8 tsp. ground black pepper
- Coconut oil for cooking
- Start by preheating the oven to 350 degrees F and greasing a mini muffin tin with coconut oil.
- Next, whisk together the eggs, veggies, salt and pepper in a large mixing bowl.
- Pour the batter into the greased muffin tins filling the tins about ¾ of the way and bake for 20-22 minutes or until the eggs are set and cooked through.
- Store leftovers in the fridge and heat up as an easy on the go breakfast!
10-Minute Breakfast Bars
- 2 cups of almonds
- 1 cup of walnuts
- 1 cup of shredded unsweetened coconut
- ¼ cup melted coconut oil
- ¼ cup raw honey
- ¼ cup unsweetened almond butter
- 1 tsp. pure vanilla extract
- 1 tsp. ground cinnamon
- 1 tsp. sea salt
- Start by melting the coconut oil over low heat in a stockpot with the honey and almond butter. Set aside.
- Next, add the nuts, shredded coconut, vanilla, cinnamon, and salt to a large mixing bowl. Stir to combine.
- Add the coconut oil, honey, and almond butter mixture and stir.
- Next, line a large baking sheet with parchment paper and add the mixture to the center of the pan. Press the mixture flat onto the pan and refrigerate for 1 hour.
- Slice into bars and enjoy as an easy on the go breakfast.
Coconut Yogurt Parfait
- 1 cup of unsweetened coconut yogurt
- ½ cup of fresh berries, sliced
- 1 Tbsp. chia seeds
- 1 Tbsp. slivered almonds
- Drizzle of 1 tsp. of raw honey
- Assemble the parfait by adding the coconut yogurt to a bowl or mason style jar.
- Top with the berries, chia seeds, and almonds.
- Drizzle with raw honey and enjoy.
Dr. Becky Campbell is a board-certified doctor of natural medicine (DNM), earned her doctorate in Chiropractic at Life University inMarietta, GA (DC) and has a doctorate of pastoral medicine (PSc.D).She was initially introduced to Functional Medicine as a patient. She struggled with many of the issues her patients struggle with today and she has made it her mission to help patients all around the world with her virtual practice. Dr. Becky Campbell specializes in Hashimoto’s disease, and she hopes to help others regain their life as functional medicine helped her regain hers.
It’s tough having to keep up with a healthy diet when you’re on a tight schedule, whether it’s because of work, school or any other reason. Being away from home for a large portion of the day leaves little time for you to actually cook your meals, but if you want to eat healthy that’s exactly what you’re going to have to do.
Fortunately, I was a college student at one point and I distinctly remember that period that I absolutely dreaded the fact that I had to cook. I was sharing my dorm room with two other people so getting access to the stove exactly when I needed it wasn’t always a given. So how did I come up with a solution for this? Well, I used something I like to call the twenty-minute rule; more specifically, if my lunch took more than twenty minutes to prepare, I would simply forget about it. With this sort of plan, I was quickly able to put together a list of weekday lunches that I could prepare in very little time and with very little effort.
Today, I want to help you out overcome that very same problem by sharing just one of my weekly meal plans with you, so without further ado, here it is!
1. Cup Ramen
- 3 hard-boiled eggs
- 4 tablespoons of scallions
- ¾ teaspoon of sesame seeds
- 3 cups of steaming water
- 1 ½ teaspoons of miso
- 1 ½ teaspoons of ginger (grated)
- 1 cup of carrots (shredded)
- 1 cup of shiitake mushrooms
- 2 cups of baby spinach
- 2 cups of ramen noodles (cooked)
- 2 tablespoons of vegetable bouillon paste
- 2 teaspoons of garlic sauce
How to make it: Start by evenly distributing the miso, the bouillon paste, the garlic sauce and ginger in three separate jars. On top of them start layering the carrots, the mushrooms, spinach, eggs and noodles. Finally, top off the mixture with a tablespoon of scallions and some sesame seeds, and leave it to cool in the fridge. You can store it this way for up to 3 days, or indefinitely if you stick it in your freezer.
2. Edamame Greek Salad
- ¼ cup of red onion
- ¼ cup of basil
- ½ sliced cucumber
- 17 ounces of thawed edamame
- ¼ teaspoon of pepper
- ¼ teaspoon of salt
- 8 cups of romaine
- 1 cup of grape tomatoes
- ½ cup of feta cheese
- ¼ cup of olives
How to make it: This one is super simple. The first thing you have to do is whisk together the oil, salt, pepper and vinegar in a medium-to-large bowl. Then all that’s left is to add the edamame, romaine, cucumber, feta, tomatoes, basil, olives and onion. Mix and toss it all around for a bit (I use my hands to get a really homogenous mixture) and you’re done!
3. Quinoa Salad with Wild Rice
- 1/2 cups of chopped pecans
- 2 stalks of celery
- ¼ teaspoon of pepper
- ¾ teaspoon of salt
- ¼ cup of pomegranate vinegar
- ¼ cup of olive oil
- 2 cups of sweet cherries
- 1 cup of goat cheese
How to make it: This one is actually a bit of an exception to my 20-minute rule, but I decided to include it anyway since it’s one of my favorite things to eat ever. First bring a large saucepan of water to a boil, then add the rice and cook for 20 to 30 minutes. Now it’s time to add the quinoa and keep cooking until it’s all nice and tender (I find that 10 minutes is just right). Drain all the water and leave it to cool down for a bit.
Take another bowl and whisk the oil, salt, pepper and vinegar, adding the rice, quinoa, cherries, celery, pecans and of course, the cheese. Make sure to stir it up real nice and stick it in the fridge to cool for about 4 hours before eating.
4. Fruit Salad with Couscous
- 2 tablespoons of shallots
- 2 tablespoons of orange juice
- 2 tablespoons of olive oil
- ½ teaspoon of salt
- ½ teaspoon of pepper
- 1 cup of nectarine
- 2 cups of couscous
- 1 cup of blueberries
- 2 tablespoons of sliced almonds
- 1 tablespoon of cider vinegar
How to make it: Take a large bowl and combine the orange juice, vinegar, oil, shallots, salt and pepper inside of it. Then just add the cooked couscous, berries, almonds and nectarines. Use a spoon or your hands to mix it up nicely and you’re done!
5. Taco Salad in a Jar
- 1/2 pound ground turkey
- 1/2 cup of tortilla chips
- 1/4 teaspoon of garlic powder
- 1/2 teaspoon of cumin
- 1/2 cup of cheddar
- 3 cups of romaine lettuce
- 1 teaspoon of chili powder
- 1/4 teaspoon of salt
- 1/2 cup of salsa
- 1 cup of cherry tomatoes
How to make it: Add the turkey to a heated skillet and cook until it reaches a nice golden brown color. Add all your spices, make sure to stir the turkey up a bit for it to grab hold of all of them and transfer it to a bowl so it can cool down. Now you need to make the salad; the amount of ingredients I’ve listed here will work for 5 to 6 jars depending on their sizes. Fill up all the jars evenly with tortilla chips, then add a layer of salsa, turkey, tomatoes, cheese and finally lettuce. Enjoy!
Vanessa Davis is a 32-year-old fitness enthusiast, mother of two and content writer at www.diet.st. She’s originally from Long Island, New York, and when she isn’t cooking up some new health and fitness article, she enjoys doing yoga and figuring out new, delicious organic recipes for herself and her kids.