I found a new snack which is only 35 calories a cup, Hooray I’m healthy! I found said snack in bulk, Hooray I’m thrifty!, I packed the snack in my car to help me on my longer than usual commute, Hooray I’m organized! I even pulled off not one, not two, but three major meetings in three different areas of the state! At the end of the day (even though days don’t really end for a business owner), I mean at the end of the last meeting, I got on the road thinking “Yes, I am the uber chic, wickedly smart, working mom on the go that only healthy, thrifty, organized women are…and I pulled it off flawlessly!”
So is popcorn, water bottles, and Google docs all it takes to accomplish this seriously inflated sense of self? Well, kind of. You see I did manage to complete 10 of the 828 things I needed to do before sundown that day, and if you must know the truth, my clothes were only clean due to a sturdy lint brush and bottle of Febreeze. I was also 25 minutes late leaving the house – with wet hair which I had to “blow-dry” by turning the car vents high and aiming them directly at my head. Did I mention I also had an entire phone conversation with a client thinking they were another client, because that happened too. Most normal people would have looked at that pile of information and asked why exactly did I feel like I had truly nailed my day? In my mind I had, I pulled into my driveway feeling accomplished, and even it was delusional to think that way, so be it! And that my friends is the exact attitude any fierce woman needs to own a successful business.
Confused yet? Let me break it down. This classy uber chic smart lady mentioned above lives in my head. I truly believe I’m her. I also truly believe that I’m building an empire for my girls and that every day when I wake up the bottom line and Q1 reports I was reading when I fell asleep (okay passed out) are where I want them to be, not where they are.
Still confused? Every business owner, or woman with a goal, must operate daily with a healthy dose of delusion to be successful. I mean, who in their right mind would wake up every day excited to tackle everything from financial to HR issues all before they hit the front-lines of a 15-18 hour work day, capping it off by figuring out the next five years of a company which not only financially supports themselves, but a host of employees? I can tell you no rational person would! It’s the delusion of believing we are who want to be and not who we actually are. Remember the old phrase dress for the job you want not the job you have? It’s exactly the same thing.
Some call it drive, passion or persistence, and those certainly fit the bill. Others call it dreaming big, and depending on how cynical you are, maybe even a coping mechanism. Either way you look at it, it is an essential part of any fierce woman’s personality traits – and it need not have a negative connotation!
So come on admit it, you imagined landing a new client in your Chanel suit (even though it was really from Target), you walked into your board meeting completely prepared (even though you were spell checking your presentation as you walked down the hall), and despite the fact that more days than not are harder and longer than you could have ever imagined, it’s those moments, the day you complete roughly 2% of your intended “to do” list and become the delusional figure in your head that keep you going. Because it just so happens that one day you will actually be that person without even realizing it happened.
Kara Vanderpool Ward is owner of Triple V Enterprises where she works daily along side her father, affectionately dubbed the Suit, and her brother, The Hoodie. She is the United States Winner of the Hot Momma’s Project, the worlds largest case study project for women housed at George Washington University, and the recipient of the Patricia Lacy Metzger Distinguished Woman Award from The University of Mary Washington. She lives in Charlottesville, VA with her husband and two teenage daughters and is caregiver to her 88 year old grandmother.