Eliminate Your Fear of Updating Your Home


Are you enjoying making your house and home and picking pieces and updates that reflect your personal style? Or are you riddled with doubt, plagued with indecision, unable to make the smallest purchase or complete the easiest project?

If you’re in the latter category, you’re not alone. Countless homeowners find themselves stuck in style ruts, unable to make purchases out of fear of buyer’s remorse, or trapped in a crippling cycle of social media comparison and envy.

Don’t know where to begin with your updates? Unsure of your personal style? Letting fear or insecurity hold you back? Eliminate that fear and get a much needed confidence boost by trying these 5 tips:

1) Ignore the Rules


There are hundreds, thousands of professional decorators, home decorating magazines, television personalities and bloggers who are eager to share the bottom-line, written-in-stone decorating rules with you.

Ignore them.

Decorating rules are meant to be broken. These rules are invented by individual people based on their deeply personal preferences and opinions.

That’s right, decorating rules are 100% subjective.

You’re the one who has to see your decorating choices day in and day out, so choose what makes you happy. If you like a rule, stick to it. If you don’t, go ahead and break it. Your opinion is the one that matters.


2) Pin with Caution


Pinterest, DIY blogs, decorating magazines, Instagram feeds: these are all great ways to find inspiration, but they can be dangerous as well.

Looking at perfect picture after perfect picture can trap you in a vicious cycle of envy, self-doubt and inaction. You find yourself desperately wanting your home to look like your favorite blogger’s while doubting that you could ever create something so beautiful.

Instead of becoming inspired to roll up your sleeves and check items off your to-do list, you find yourself stewing in a miserable cocktail of jealousy and self-loathing.

If blogs and social media sites help you find inspiration, then use them to your heart’s content. But if you find your browsing leaves you blue, consider leaving it behind.


3) Start Small


New Year’s resolutions tend to fail because people approach them with an all or nothing mentality. When they can’t meet their goal immediately and completely, they abandon it.

That’s why your best bet it to tackle your goals one small step at a time.

Take the first step towards your resolution by adding a pop of color. This can be as simple as buying a new duvet cover, framing a favorite print, changing the accent pillows on your couch or adding a new throw. If you want to get your hands dirty, try painting an accent wall or adding removable wallpaper to a small nook.

The best part of these little, colorful updates is they are low-risk. Not only are they easy and cheap, they’re easy to undo or reverse if you change your mind.


4) Go Big


Sometimes your need to wade in and other times you need to cannonball into the deep end.

Small, reversible updates are a great way to build your confidence, but sometimes you need to make a big change in order to attain any sort of forward motion.

Starting with the biggest item means that every decision that follows will be made with that focal piece in mind. Rather than painting the walls, adding accent pieces and then trying to find a couch that matches, buy your dream sofa first and match the cheaper, easier to replace items to it.

And remember, going big doesn’t mean breaking the bank. There’s a difference between procrastinating and waiting for a good sale.


5) Let Go of Forever


Let’s be frank: styles will change.

Not only will style trends change from year to year, but your personal style will change and evolve as well. If you’re avoiding an update because you can’t settle on a piece that you’ll love until your dying day, well, you’ll be waiting forever.

When it comes to most pieces—mirrors and hardware, curtains and bedding, furniture and fixtures—go with what you love right now. There’s no telling what you’ll love in twenty or fifty years and putting off a decision until then will only keep you trapped in a dissatisfied limbo.

The real bottom-line rule of home decorating is this: the only person your home needs to please is you. So stop worrying about how to get started and take confidence in the fact that just by being you, you are automatically the best qualified person to curate your dream home.



Kacey MyaKacey Mya Bradley is a lifestyle blogger for “The Drifter Collective.”  Throughout her life, she has found excitement in the world around her.  Kacey graduated with a degree in Communications while working for a lifestyle magazine. She has been able to fully embrace herself with the knowledge of nature, the power of exploring other locations, cultures, and styles, while communicating these endeavors through her passion for writing and expression. Her love for the world around her is portrayed through her visually pleasing, culturally embracing and inspiring posts.


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